No one is going to just show up on your doorstep: if you want monogamy – or polyamory – you’re going to have to work for it. Nowhere is safe, nowhere is perfect, nowhere is all bad. That being said, some of the biggest dirtbags I’ve ever let into my bed were people I met in cafés and bars (and also some of the best men in the world). I have met some of the most amazing men in my life on apps, and also some of the worst. Take it from a faggot who knows: I’ve dated my way across multiple continents, I’ve topped, I’ve bottomed, I’ve got into inadvisable threesomes, I’ve navigated saying no to the HnH crowd, I’ve lost ones that should have been LTRs and I’ve had LTRs with people I should avoid. It’s a wilderness out there and it can be terrifying if not demeaning. The thing is, they do differ from the standard offerings, even when you are on the standard offerings: the clandestine nature of gay love and a decade of Grindr mean even in the most mundane of places we find a way to switch it up. Homosexuality does not make you worse, or better, than the conveniences of modern society. Probably not neither, if you’re here, because you’ve come to an article about the best gay dating apps.
